Love hurts. It hurts so bad and so good. It hurts so bad because we want to keep and protect what we love. We hurt at the deepest when we it is threatened or taken away. It hurts so good because love enriches our lives with such intensity that we struggle to absorb it all. It leaves us feeling like we are unworthy and we are often struck with the sense of fear that even when it is good, it could leave us within the drop of a hat.
We often love and never get it back in return or the love get shifted to someone else. We have our hearts broken or cracked at some time in our lives. We have been let down, disappointed and betrayed. Consciously or unconsciously we have inflicted pain on others and they have inflicted pain on us. In order words, love is risky business whether in our professional or personal lives. Life partners and spouses leave. Business partners and valued clients leave. Marriages dissolve and businesses become insolvent. It can all go so wrong and so right at different times and for different reasons.
Are you loving as it you have never loved before and never been hurt before? Do you love spontaneously and generously? Or do put up an emotional firewall between you and your potential partners because of the pain you experienced in the past? The love you receive may be as a direct result of the love you give. If you stop or slow down the flow of love to others, it is possible that you are slowing down the flow of love from others to you. The risk is never that we will give too much love to others, it is whether we will be able to keep on giving when our love is not reciprocated.
Love is never lost. it gets redirected. Love given selflessly, enriches the person who receives it. Love as though you have never been hurts. Whatever, your past experiences, make the decision to love freshly from today. Learn from your mistakes but do not allow them to incapacitate your ability to love. To love is to live and to live is to love and there is no in-between. As social being, if we are not loving something, an activity or a cause that benefits others, it is likely that we are leading a half-life.
Love is the magnet that draws the best emotions out of others. Love has withstood many withdrawals, threats, disappointments, losses, sacrifices. Mike Lipkin captured it in a way that I could not. According to him, "Love is the enduring source of energy and inspiration. It's an unconditional commitment to hold fast, hug slow, stay true, give back, pay it forward and to make other person or thing better, whatever it takes... It surges, not trickles and once it's turned on, it keeps on flowing."
Be open. Learn your language of love and use it in ways that are right for you. Take every chance to let people know what you love, why you love the things you love, why they should love and why you love them. Love continuously.
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